The other day my friend allowed me to borrow his car…without hesitation…without strings…it was a quick “yes”. This was a new car of his. It made me question, “am I this generous?”
I already know that answer. No.
If you asked to borrow my car that I was still making payments on, it would be a hesitant “no”. Now, I’m not a complete jerk; I would offer to take you where you needed if it wasn’t too far out of the way or my comfort zone.
…but that’s not how I want to be.
I want to be like my friend. I want to freely give with the understanding that everything I have is from the Lord and I have to trust Him with those things. Cliche, but He blesses me to be a blessing. That’s what my friend was doing. He was blessing me with the blessing God had given him.
Too often I fall on the side of “wisdom” declaring that it’s not wise to allow someone to borrow my car because they could wreck it. However, that’s not necessarily the side of wisdom, but rather the side of fear. They “could” wreck it, and they “could” return it perfectly fine with some extra gas in the tank!
Not only is my false-wisdom fear, but it’s not motivated by love.
1 John 4:18 says,
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
Read that last sentence: The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
Obviously, I have a lot of growing to do in love, and guys this is not easy. It’s dying to oneself. Death HURTS. But on this earth, we are called to be like Christ. What did Christ do? He laid down His life for us! ALL of us–believers and non-believers alike.
Verse 19 in 1 John 4 trails verse 18 stating,
“We love because he first loved us.”
God loved us with no strings and no prerequisite, but by choice (knowing some would not choose Him and others would fail Him). We love because of the example the Lord has given us.
This is why community and brothers and sisters are so important because when we fall short of loving, we can see God’s love through the Godly examples of others. My friend helped me better experience and understand God’s love that day. I pray and will work towards someone else being able to do the same with me.